Entitled Mom Steals Her Children's Birthdays For Years, Daughter Has Enough Of It

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    Font - V r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/ThrowawayBirthdayx96 1 day ago O 36 50 S 55 4 AITA for not wanting to celebrate my mom on MY birthday? Not the A-hole I have three siblings between the ages of 10 and 18. I'm the oldest fourth at 25. Every year on every single one of our birthday, we're expected to celebrate my mom as well. We've done it since we were little. It was taught to me as 'giving thanks for carrying + giving birth to us'. Which I'm all for, I am grateful as we wouldn't be here wit
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    Font - Every year on our birthday our mom gets gifts too. As we got older, we're now expected to get her monetary gifts (and not cards, or homemade stuff). Just recently was my birthday and I was gifted some much needed clothes and dishware for my new apartment. My dad however got my mom a new macbook. My siblings all got her gifts too. My youngest brother isn't expected to give much, but my 16 year old sister and 18 year old 2nd brother work so they're expected to give gifts too. My sister pull
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    Font - I asked how much it was, and my sister said it was $300. I honestly lost it on our mom and chewed into her later that afternoon when my mom opened her gifts after me. I think she's ridiculous for even wanting my sister to spend so much on a gift! Mom started crying and my dad kicked me out. Mom won't answer calls but my aunt (mom's sister) called and said I was a POS for not respecting my mother and that I'm a selfish, narcissist child for being jealous of the gifts mom got.
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    Font - I thought I was in the right, but now I don't know. It's been over two weeks and mom won't answer my calls. She's been posting on facebook inspiration quotes about letting go of the toxicity in your life, how blood doesn't equal family, and how hard it is to be a mother. Several family members (aunt, grandma, uncle, and two of my cousins) are replying to the posts and are very obviously directing vague comments at me about being a horrible daughter... Idk what to think now because of how
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    Font - Primary-Criticism929 - 1 day ago 26 S 4 Pooperintendant [60] NTA. It was her choice to carry 4 children and give birth to them. Your mother sounds self-centered ans selfish. As far as toxicity in one's life and how blood doesn't equal family, I think you should apply that to your mother, not to you.
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    Font - dinkelbeeeerg - 1 day ago NTA however your mom though. Holy crapbucket. How the hell can you feel entitled to a 300$ gift from your kid(at 18). And expecting 5 birthdays a year. Your mom and your enabling family are messed up. I would have cut them off asap. Maybe leave an olive branch for your siblings if they wanna run at some point as well.
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    Font - VividEfficiency7347 · 1 day ago Asshole Aficionado [18] NTA so much! Your birthday and your mum got a new MacBook, a 300 necklace plus more? And she does this 4x a year plus Christmas, her own birthday and Mother's Day. Also why is your dad ignored here? It's shocking how awful she is guilting you all into spending loads on her so much each year
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    Font - I-am-here-what-next - 1 day ago Asshole Enthusiast [6] NTA and I've never in my life heard of such a ridiculous thing as gifts for the mother or father for a kids birthday. That is some narcissistic nonsense. Shouldn't your father get them too? On Mother's Day and Father's Day are they expected to give you guys gifts since you are the reason they are parents? Maybe you should stop trying to contact them and distance yourself for a while without any contact with your parents (siblings clea
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    Font - downund3r · 1 day ago NTA. Giving your mom gifts on your birthday isn't a normal thing.
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    Font - Glittercorn111 - 1 day ago Asshole Aficionado [16] Pretty rich of your aunt to call you the narcissist when your mother has been taking advantage of you four to milk for more gifts and money. This is just like the parents who say their kids owe them for "x y z bullshit". NTA, and this is the weirdest thing I've ever heard of.
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    Font - Elfich47 · 1 day ago Pooperintendant [68] NTA - this the first time I've ever heard of "gifts for the mother" on the person's birthday. So your mom gets four rounds of gifts, plus her birthday, that is pretty demanding. Start having birthday celebrations without them going forward. Like going out with a bunch of friends instead. The fact your parents have continued it for you up to age 25 means your mom doesn't want give give up he extra present day.
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    Font - DannyBigD - 1 day ago Pooperintendant [64] NTA and your mom gets the Most Selfish Mother of the Year award. 221 Share mathwin_verinmathwin · 1 day ago Make that award and give it to her for Mother's Day
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    Font - Revolutionary_50 - 1 day ago Asshole Enthusiast [7]] INFO: I have to admit, I have never heard of such a situation. Is this a cultural thing in any way? 199 Share ThrowawayBirthdayx96 OP - 1 day ago Nope, we're American and my parents are like typical Christians. This is the only 'tradition' that we celebrate that others don't. I was in middle school when I started to realize how weird it was and how practically no one else does it.
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    Rectangle - Mkd7998 · 1 day ago Partassipant [4] NTA, there's a day for your mom and it's called mothers day. She's a piece of work and needs to learn that she made the choice to have you not the other way around. You owe her nothing on your birthday.
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    Font - Jtoots76 - 1 day ago · edited 1 day ago Partassipant [4] Info: do the rest of the mothers in your family indulge in this "tradition" or just your mom? Like...did she learn it from grandma? Edited to add NTA 88 Share ... ThrowawayBirthdayx96 OP - 1 day ago My mom did it with her own mother/my grandma, but less often now (since having kids because my parents couldn't afford it). My aunt does it as well. No one on my dad's side does it so I'm assuming my grandma started the tradition. My unc
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    Font - CrunchyCookies51 · 1 day ago Partassipant [3] My goodness, as a mother of adult children, I would never, ever expect a 'thankyou for giving me life' gift from them! They had no choice in the matter, I decided to have children, they owe me nothing! I know my kids love me all year round, I dont 'deserve' gifts for bringing them into the world. They will randomly bring me flowers occasionally and that means more to me than a gift given under any kind of pressure! Million percent NTA! I reall

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